I was recently diagnosed with Adrenal Fatigue, a stress-induced syndrome that causes debilitating tiredness.
When my practitioner showed me my adrenal graph, it was off the grid compared to someone in good health.
In spite of the eye-opener, my first reaction was unenlightened.
But how will I manage my calendar? (which closely resembled a Heathrow flight roster).
My angst was temporarily worsened by having to ditch alcohol, sugar and caffeine – as in, stat. Numbing with chocolate, wine or coffee was no longer an option. Bummer. Or so it felt.
I was cross with my body for ‘letting me down’ during such a critical time.
Then came the learning. After a few weeks of laying in bed feeling listless and crotchety, I asked myself, what’s good about this? What do I have to be grateful for here?
My inner critic, never one to miss an opportunity for air time, offered a cynical reply. I had to dig deeper.
Then a funny thing happened. Since I’ve had to slow down and take naps during the day, I realise I’ve become more productive. More abundant. More creative and, wait for it, less sulky and resistant to what is.
I’ve had to ruthlessly rejig my calendar to add white space. I call it my dream time, sometimes real, sometimes metaphorical.
In that new-found space, I have time to plot bigger picture stuff about how I can show up more powerfully to serve my clients and readers. And that isn’t at my own expense.
The result? Mood (and career) catapulted.
- STAYING IN YOUR OWN BUSINESS is a technique used by Byron Katie which is a pin to the balloon of bad moods. It goes like this.
There are 3 kinds of business in the Universe: mine, yours and God’s (for Katie, ‘God’ means reality. Reality is God, she says, because it rules). Anything that’s out of our control – weather, train schedules, bad hair days – are God’s business.
When we leave the realm of our own business, worrying about floods, Ebola, fracking and whether that was really it for our summer, we are mentally in God’s business.
When we think about what others should do, or how they should behave, we’re in their business.
On the train this morning, a woman sat down next to me and started pulling at her eyelashes. She yanked one out. Dropped it. Yanked at another. Dropped it. This went on for a few stops.
I’m thinking, ‘you should really stop that.’
I was suddenly feeling agitated.
And then I remembered Katie’s words. Why am I agitated? Because I’m in her business. I’m should-ing all over her.
Every time we feel irritated, hurt, offended, chances are, we’re not in our own business.
When we are outside of our own business, we become separate from ourselves. Sucky mood anyone?
So next time you’re feeling cranky, ask yourself:
Am I in my own business, or in someone else’s? Then course correct.
Katie’s right – it’s freeing!
- BEING USEFUL is my favourite mood rocket.
When we’re being helpful or serving others, it’s pretty hard to be stuck in our own ego-centric doldrums. Something shifts. We’ve moving out of our own thought loop into something creative and higher-energy.
Here’s what I try when my mood is radioactive:
– Call my mum
– Share someone’s fine work on social media
– Send a hand-written note to someone I appreciate
– Send a friend a book, magazine or flowers
– Pay a genuine compliment
– Have a walk with my kids
It only helps 100% of the time.
Being useful, giving, reaching out, doing something for someone – they’re all the best cures I know to make short of a long face.
What whacks your sucky moods?
Like this? See the previous blog, 3 Questions To Ask Your Irritated Self.