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About To Lose It? Quick, Read This…
Jean Paul Sartre said, ‘Hell is other people.’ This feels especially true if that person is grating on your last nerve, nudging you ever closer to a Chernobyl-scale meltdown. It is so easy to absorb the energetic resonances of others, and then blame the heinous jerk for ruining your day. There’s nothing more contagious than anger. It’s the chicken […]
Can Mamie Change How YOU Connect?
Why is it that some of us are master connectors, while others just communicate? In July of 1979, our family friend Mamie came to visit. She turned her green Renault into our crackly gravel driveway and beeped the horn as she drove down the hill. My brother Markus and I jumped off the swings and ran to […]
Three Stories That Keep You Stuck in Fear (and increase the suckage factor in your life)
Your ability to create a life you love is driven by the stories you generate and self-administer. That is the good news. The bad news is the same. Dr. Donald Hebb, fellow Canadian, was famous for his work on neuroplasticity. He is known for Hebb’s Law, the idea that neurons that fire together wire together. […]
I’m a Little Tea Pot – Thoughts on Personal Impact
People often ask me, ‘How can I have more impact?’ They think it’s about being more impressive. Doing more. Achieving more. Being flashier. Wearing better shoes. It can be those ego-flavoured things. But it really depends on what impact someone is seeking. Me? I’m less interested in being on the cover of People magazine than […]
Death By A Thousand Paper Cuts
Spoiler alert: bad things happen when we mute our inner wisdom… I’m doing well in my job, but it feels like something is missing. Ever felt like that? I have. I had a passion for academia, a passion so zealous that nothing could stop me – until it did. I spent more than a decade in university […]
Time To Hang Up Your Legwarmers? Why Being Hard-Core Is Overrated
The other day a client said: ‘Why are we so hard on ourselves?’ It was a throwaway comment, uttered in a humorous tone. But it’s something that deserves unpacking. We’re hard on ourselves because we want to be. It serves us. It means we can preoccupy ourselves with self-abuse instead of creating what quietly calls […]
Your Best-Self Grows Others…
Funnily enough, one of the best ways to grow and develop the Self is by growing others. It has an entirely different vibe. Taking on self-development full-frontal can mean the not-good-enough gremlins creep in. Helping others grows us without the creep….Everyone wins.
How to Have Juicier Conversations
Networking conversations leaving you flat as the cheap Prosecco? This one question can help you have juicier conversations…
10 Truths of the Outrageously Focused
Focus isn’t a gift. It’s a choice. There are no special skills required; no workshops to take; no gurus needed. It’s about making the simple decision that the long-term aim outweighs the temporary suckiness of sitting your butt down and doing what needs to be done. Here’s a curated list of key truths of the outrageously-focused. Membership by choice only.
Let go of the Grabbies
Maybe business is slow, or we’re feeling unsure of ourselves. Maybe our last offering bombed, big time. Or no one commented on our latest outfit, or blog post. It’s easy to get grabby for validation, for good-enoughness…Here’s how to reel back. Spoiler alert: there’s gonna be hugging.