When you’ve got no idea who you are or what you want, it complicates the heck out of intimate relationships.
But, erm, maybe if you’re nice enough – meaning you become whoever a possible partner wants you to be – you’ll get the connection and sex you’re looking for, right?
Today’s guest is coach and therapist Dr Sasha Mitrofanov, a man intimately acquainted with the role of “I’ll be whoever you want me to be.”
Sasha shares his experience of growing up disconnected from his own needs, and how that showed up in his relationships. Clueless about how to meet women, Sasha joined the Seduction Society.
But real change only happened once he began the deep work of connecting with himself and shedding his nice guy persona.
In this poignant and practical episode, Dr Sasha shares the tools that ultimately helped him to feel good enough – and that he uses with the anxious, “nice guy” (and “good girl”) clients he works with.
Dr Sasha’s website: https://www.drsasha.co.uk
Brandon Bays’ book, The Journey
Neil Straus’s book, The Game
John Gottman’s book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Kristin Neff’s book, Self Compassion