Episode 95: Fawning Saved You. Now It’s Costing You with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Ever said, “No worries, all good” while your insides screamed otherwise? That’s not weakness. That was your nervous system doing its genius, trauma-sourced thing: fawning. In this episode, author and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton shows us that fawning isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a self-abandonment pattern we can gently unlearn, because it’s costing you. Big time. We get into why fawning isn’t actually “being nice.” You’ll learn how it shows up day to day, and how you can start building safety from the inside out, so saying “No”, or being in conflict doesn’t feel so terrifying. If you’re regularly “fine with whatever,” or feel unable to express preferences, objections and big emotions, you’re going to want to listen to this.

 

 

Links:
Dr. Ingrid Clayton’s Website and book
Ingrid on Substack
Ingrid on Instagram

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