Growing others grows the Self. Your brightness increases when you light the light in others. Truth, that.
When we fixate on developing ourselves – as if we’re in need of fixing – it’s easy for not-good-enoughness to creep in. Then we entertain the host of gremlins, quick to point out our faults with a precision laser pointer.
Ego-driven, self-doubting thoughts cut us off from others. These thoughts make us lose perspective. Victim thinking creeps in (I’m hopeless at this; This always happens to me; I always pull the short straw; Typical!).
It’s an Eeyore mindset.
When you feel yourself sliding into me-me-me thinking, like a narcissistic opera singer, change the tune. Try you-you-you. Serve somebody. Help out. Contribute. One of the great ironies of self-development is that it works best when you are helping others.